The power that comes with wearing pantyhose unrealized by most ladies

Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous
Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous

It is said that “Knowledge is power” (Francis Bacon).

We’ve also heard that money is power, and that there is power in numbers.  And, two music artists: Huey Lewis and the News, and Celine Dion, sang two different songs called The Power of Love.

Male or female, many people possess such power, but there’s a very special power reserved strictly for the ladies.  Ironically,  however, very many more men than ladies appear to be aware of it.

What am I talking about here?  The power women wield when wearing sheer pantyhose today.

Some ladies do get it, and they embrace this power.  Most of the celebrity ones, you’ve read about many times here.  But this time, we’re talking about everyday real ladies.

How would wearing pantyhose give me this power, you ladies ask?  Apparently, most of you today don’t realize this (or don’t care), but the vast majority of men from practically every civilized country in the world love and adore you when you wear pantyhose.  And they will do almost anything you want when you wear.

You’ll get tons more looks from gentlemen out in public and at the office.  And, more compliments will be given to you, more doors will be held for you, more opportunities will open up to you, and more favors will be done for you.  Mostly, more men will notice you, admiringly.

You see, most gentlemen feel that ladies who wear sheer pantyhose for all the right reasons and at all the proper venues are very special.   And this is all the more significant in today’s time where too many women think, act and even try to look more like men.

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Standing apart:  A lovely young lady in beautiful pantyhose has inadvertantly captured the attention of a man who can’t take his eyes off her, even while the woman he is with is trying to conduct a conversation with him.

And guess what?  You not only have power over men when you wear sheer pantyhose, but also over other women who don’t.  When you wear (and get all the attention and adoration of men), that makes the women who don’t wear feel uncomfortable, insecure and jealous.

Don’t think so?  Look around.  Sheer pantyhose aren’t just coming back.  They’re already back.   If you pay attention, you can see that pantyhose are showing up everywhere again — on TV shows, TV commercials and print ads, in movies … and (hold your breath) … even on fashion runways.  There’s your biggest proof (and your worst nightmare if you’re a devoted “bear” legs practitioner).

That’s why I wrote above that women who don’t wear are uncomfortable in the presence of the special ladies who do.  Those bear-leggers are beginning to notice more and more ladies wearing pantyhose, and they’re feeling insecure about it because deep down they knew all along that this bear legs thing is ugly and stupid, but because it existed, they jumped on and stayed on that bandwagon.

And now, they are being confronted with the reality that (as fashion always does) the bear legs trend is swinging in the opposite direction, back toward sheer pantyhose again.

tumblr_ncj17fwbcq1s4rbj2o1_1280This makes the bear legs disciples jealous of the lovely ladies who already have returned to pantyhose (or never abandoned them in the first place), as those ladies have the courage and convictions of femininity, which includes class, grace and elegance, which the bears don’t possess.

The bears know pantyhose are returning, but most of them can’t accept it, or are hibernating in denial.

As the president of ActSensuous, who’s self-imposed mission in life since 2001 is to carry the torch for the return to favor of pantyhose, I wear every day.  And when I say every day, I mean Sunday through Saturday no matter how hot it is in Florida.  When I go out into the real world, I set an example, whether anyone notices or appreciates it or not.

For a while there, I was beginning to think that men were so long-beaten-down by the bear-leggers, they had gotten conditioned to seeing only Carrie Underwood legs, as they seemed not to even glance my way.  This just couldn’t be, I thought.

So, recently, I resorted to blending into the shadows, while observing my best gal pal, Angela, as she gallivants out and about in our NewAct IV line.

That’s when I came to realize, oh, men are most definitely looking.  It’s just that they’ve become all Jason Bourne about it, adept at very discreetly surveilling a babe in pantyhose.  These guys don’t miss a single delicate (but totally in-control) step, as Angela glides down streets, aisles and parking lots.

even-other-women-lookAnd here’s something interesting I found along the way: Unlike what I expected, the looks from many women weren’t always those of daggers flying from their eyes, as much as ones that carried a hint of envy in them.

They were seeing someone else doing what they probably secretly want to do, but wouldn’t, for fear of seeming out of place according to what they viewed as “just the way things are these days.”

Here’s the reality:  Being out and about in sheer pantyhose — the most beautiful, delicately sensuous and decidedly feminine thing a woman could ever wear — has an effect on men (and many women), which can make the wearer feel like a million bucks because she is setting herself apart from the masses in the most classy and elegant of ways.

Readers saying it, too

Many of you have read comments here from some of those real ladies who get it.  Case in point: Kim, who wrote this comment last month:

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Picture from file, not of Kim.

As a woman, I love my position and the attention I get from my hub especially when I dress up and put on my pantyhose and heels.

And believe it or not, I think he likes the attention I get from other men in the room. They…notice.   It’s a real turn-on for him.

(The results are very good for me at the end of the night too, wink wink.)

What I find funny are the cady reactions I see from other women. “What is she wearing? Look.”  I actually find that more funny.

As so many of the comments we read here are from men who express their dismay and sadness at their wives’ or girlfriends’ refusal to wear (and not just in general, but not even once in a great while for their men’s enjoyment), it’s refreshing to see such a positive comment from a real lady out there who definitely gets it.  Go, Kim.

That reminded me of a similar comment we saw here last year.  It came from Aimelous:

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Picture from file, not of Aimelous.

For me personally I like wearing (pantyhose) for the man I’m with because I like the fact that it turns him on and it makes me feel desired and in control. It is such a simple request by a man asking me to wear a pair, who would say no?

I’m confused by all the women that do say no or think it’s weird there are so many fetishes and I find this one to be so easy to accommodate. I also like the feeling of somebody rubbing my legs or feet while I have on a pair.  It feels nice and I actually really do like it.

I do read the men’s comments and they seem to have problems asking women or finding women that want to do this and I can’t understand why a woman wouldn’t? Again that is just how I feel because it’s just so easy.

I do also find the nylons to be a very intimate thing and that is more my style. I’m sure I could wear a pair for a guy who didn’t really like them because men basically do whatever you want and ask him to rub my legs but it simply would not be the same feeling to me as a man who truly enjoyed that.

I would rather have a relationship now with a man who prefers them and likes them than a man who didn’t.

power-in-phAhhhhh, now there’s a lady who truly gets it.  Notice that in Aimelous’ very first sentence, she writes “ … and it makes me feel desired and in control.”

This is the power I’m talking about.  Sadly, most women today don’t seem to realize they could wield that power if they would wear sheer pantyhose.

Rather, they must find it easier to just complain and cite the same old lame excuses about how bad pantyhose must be.  I say “must be” because I believe most of them don’t actually know, as they are merely following along, riding the bandwagon that others like them started a decade-and-a-half ago.

Back to Aimelous: A bit later when a male reader (who mentioned that his wife doesn’t wear), asked Aimelous what her favorite shade of pantyhose is, she responded:

For me its the nude and i prefer a better quality nylon. I like very soft/silky feels like cashmere. Since you like them so much as do most men here im confused why you all forgo them (i know its not your choice).

How important is it to you in your relationship on a scale from 1/10. Im confused why people are with others when they cant really be themselves?  I dont think i could ever do that.  Dont get me wrong i understand life obligations, jobs, kids, wife, etc and nylons shouldnt be more important by any means, but isnt it a part of you and who you are or no?

And that is exactly what I’ve been saying for years to men who write comments here, or letters they email me.  It is so refreshing to hear another lady ask:  Why do you guys forgo so easily the thing you love most in life?  And how important is it to you in your relationship?

Therapy

Now, I’m no therapist, and it’s a good thing I’m not a marriage counselor either.  I wouldn’t be a good one because I’d tell these guys to send their wives or girlfriends packing when they refuse to do such a simple and innocent little favor for their husbands or boyfriends.

Think I’m too harsh?  How many times have I written here:  It’s not as if guys are asking their ladies to wear leather from head to toe, stilettos or corsets?  We’re talking about soft, sheer pantyhose here, people.  They weigh like 1.6 ounces and that includes the packaging.  They are like silk.

Well, that’s true about ActSensuous pantyhose, anyway.  Ours are 100 percent nylon (no spandex).  Any woman who would say these are uncomfortable is simply fooling herself.  In such a case, the real issue must be that she has no sense of femininity, elegance, beauty or glamour.

Comments on this blog like those from Kim, Amielous and a few others are very encouraging, as it’s good for everyone to see in writing that not all women out there are simple cows who just don’t get (or worse, don’t care) what their men want.

Also last year, came this positive, but at the same time, heart-wrenching comment from Annie:

I’m twenty four, I live in the UK and I’ve just come out of a relationship with a guy who I absolutely adored and he had a tights (that’s what we call them here!) fetish.

Before meeting him I thought of tights as nothing special really. I assumed men preferred bare legs. I had to wear them for work and I never even took a second glance at deniers or finishes when buying them. But now, I see the true beauty of them. I can tell which denier and finish someone is wearing when they pass me in the street.

I absolutely loved the fetish and it became a huge part of my life. I found the entire concept of it so exciting and I now wear them every single day. I also notice that a pair of heels and low denier black tights have turned more than a few heads when I’ve walked by! I do think there’s something about them now!

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Picture from file, not of Annie.

The hardest thing I’m finding now that we’ve broken up it’s kind of like ‘Well what now?’ Do I just hope someone will find me who has the same fetish?  Do I actively look for someone with this fetish? I’ve looked online and found websites and forums but something about looking for someone with a fetish seems a bit ‘not right’ to me?

I don’t have the fetish myself, but I feel I have been conditioned to link tights with sex now and I find the thought of having sex without them very mundane, I enjoyed it so much!

It made me feel so much more attractive, and teaming them with outfits became something I absolutely threw myself into with enthusiasm.

At first, I thought it was just because I missed him, but it would seem not.

I’ve posted this here because I feel this blog is the most ‘clean’ and I’ve really enjoyed reading it. I felt I might get some kind of helpful feedback as opposed to people responding with crude comments followed by their telephone numbers! Thanks.

Wow, what a great girl Annie is.  She truly is a dream come true for most of the men on this planet.  I hope she will follow up and let us know how things are going for her today, and whether she’s found a new boyfriend who surely would consider himself  among the luckiest guys in the world.

In today’s world filled with negativity, hatred, madness (and ugliness in how most women present themselves), it’s wonderful to see that there still are some very special ladies out there who truly get it?  They have learned, accepted and embraced (or, in some cases, always knew in the first place) the reality that they wield true power when wearing pantyhose.

However, this comment came through last year from Elsa:

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Picture from file, not of Elsa. Sadly, though, these sheer pantyhose likely found the trash bag in Elsa’s house.

I recently started dating a guy with a pantyhose fetish. I don’t know what to think about it.  I’ve tried indulging him as much as he wants, but honestly I just don’t like the feel of them and can only take them on my legs for a short period of time.

Should I just give up on him and hope he finds someone who enjoys them as much as he does?

It’s not a big deal to endure a little discomfort now and then for his pleasure, but honestly, why is his fetish more important than my aversion to these not-so-natural clothing items?

I get it you guys love the look and feel of them, but isn’t it just a tad bit unhealthy to be so obsessed with an item of clothing? It’s starting to cause problems when he wants me to wear them and I don’t feel like it. It’s not like I haven’t happily gone along with it countless times already, but it can’t be every time. It is just getting boring.

OK, I appreciate that Elsa at least tried to indulge her boyfriend’s love for pantyhose.  Yet, while perhaps she isn’t quite the man-hating bear who couldn’t care less about the wants and needs of the one in her life, she is one of those females I find so perplexing.  She just doesn’t like the feel of pantyhose, and “can take them on her legs for only a short period of time?”  Uh, could that be because they are too tight maybe?

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Open market: A business lady already wearing (above, and two others below, right), inspects a pair of sheer pantyhose from a street vendor.

This is one of those issues I’ve been trying to educate women about for … I don’t know, a hundred years now?  For a woman to say she doesn’t like the feel of pantyhose on her legs, tells me she doesn’t know how to choose pantyhose.

As I’ve said for (ever), women have choices!  I suppose even I wouldn’t like the feel of pantyhose on my legs if I were buying the kind with a high concentration of spandex in them.

Of course, I realize there are thousands of men who love the tight-fitting shiny kind of pantyhose, which might actually have more to do with an encasement or bondage fetish than a pantyhose fetish.

Spandex, a synthetic compound of rubberized particles, was invented in the 1980s for athletic apparel, such as compression shorts.

street-vendor-2Their application in pantyhose allowed manufacturers to make a (money saving) one-size-fits-all style because spandex would allow the garment to stretch, but then return to it’s original size and shape.

My belief is that probably most women, but definitely the ones who are slightly willing to “sacrifice” (I’m using that word sarcastically) their comfort and principles for their man’s pleasure, have little if any education or experience in shopping for pantyhose.

So they either buy a brand/style haphazardly, or just wear whatever their men buy for them.

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Ouch: Made with a great amount of spandex, pantyhose like these are going to be super tight, something many ladies likely would find uncomfortable.

Now, wearing pantyhose made with a ton of spandex on one’s legs for an extended length of time certainly could be considered uncomfortable.  And since the vast majority of pantyhose today have some degree of spandex in them, it stands to reason that those are the kind most women are buying.

They must not realize they have more than just that style from which to choose.

Those are the women who try pantyhose once or maybe a couple times and come away with a negative feeling about them.

In Elsa’s case, she admits she has an aversion to pantyhose, and calls them a “not-so-natural” item of clothing.  Her hostility toward pantyhose is obvious, making me surprised that she tried to indulge her man’s love for them even once.

Excellent viewpoints

Have you noticed the well-conceived and brilliantly written comments that have been appearing here lately?  They’re quite impressive.  A couple of months ago, Russell, a reader I believe is a lawyer, wrote (in part) this:

kate-middleton-006In this season of presidential election politics, I pose the question “Do women who lean toward the right or conservatism tend to wear pantyhose more frequently than their left or liberal leaning cohorts?”

I submit the answer is yes and here is my argument in support of my position. Conservative women favor preservation of tradition, class, good looks, being well dressed and polished. They are typically not subject to what I call the lemur phenomena, meaning they will not follow others off a cliff just because that’s the direction the rest of the crowd is heading.

Liberals, or left leaning women follow current trends and fads. Once pantyhose became a pariah of feminists who viewed them as a symbol of male oppression and sexism, they followed suit and continue to do so in the honest belief that they have no other function save for objectifying women.

Well, I don’t disagree with anything Russell wrote, although clearly, there’s more to it than that.

Similarly, writer Kinsley Goldman of Celeb Dirty Laundry, an Internet entertainment news publication, on March 26, 2012 wrote:

Kate Middleton (above left) is becoming a fashion leader and this means that the conservative look is definitely on rise.  Duchess Catherine is now the most looked-at woman in the world, as well as the most admired.  Her clothing choices are elegant, modest, and conservative while always fresh and never dowdy.”

A couple of weeks ago, another wise reader, JA, expanded on Russell’s comment, writing (in part) this:

I see the women who refuse to wear pantyhose today as falling into either one of two categories: “Copy Cats” or “Scaredy Cats”.

The Copy Cats are followers who simply do whatever they’re told and what everyone else does because they are incapable of acting out of independent thought. When wearing pantyhose was in vogue, they wore them, and would never think of doing otherwise. When pantyhose fell out of favor, they followed suit and perpetuated the trend. Lemmings, pure and simple.

The Scaredy Cats know better than this, but lack the confidence to do what they feel is right because doing so would make them look like outcasts and subject them to ridicule.

Both groups lack conviction, and both groups share the blame for our current “drought”, but there is one startling difference between the two. Since the Scaredy Cats are not being true to themselves, they feel guilty for going “bear”. The Copy Cats, on the other hand, feel a sense of pride.

That’s an interesting and entertaining way of putting, and I agree with JA.  But it was something else JA wrote that really resonated with me, as it is something I have believed for a long time.

Here’s how JA put it (in part):

… like it or not, “bear legs” have become the traditional style of dress. As recent comments on this site point out, it is the women who wear pantyhose in today’s world who are looked upon as being the “non-traditional” ones, whose actions are viewed as being “radical”, “pushing the envelope”, “upsetting the status quo”, “being risque”, and who are actively testing modern society’s comfort levels. A decade and a half ago, it was the “bears” who fell into this category.

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Beauties and the beasts

The reason I like JA’s statement is its reality takes away what I believe was always the beasts’ greatest goal in life — to change the decent and good values of society in the areas of professionalism, class, elegance and good taste — probably mostly for the sake of just being counter culture, but maybe also because those are the standards they fear the most.  I believe they can’t handle the pressure of living up to such values, and view it as easier to look and act like beasts than to carry themselves with any kind of grace and elegance like the beauties.

The best part is that the beasts sought attention for trying to bring all of society down to their level, but it backfired, as it’s now the outnumbered beauties (those who continued to embrace the traditional values by daring to wear sheer pantyhose for all the right reasons) who are now getting all the attention the beasts so craved in the first place.  And that attention is growing stronger and faster than the beasts ever could have imagined for their own cause.

And, men everywhere are noticing and applauding the beauties.  So tired men are of beast mode.  They’ve had it with this ugliness and their voices are beginning to get a little louder.  For the most part, look at the advertising on TV, which too often portrays women as wanting to look, act and dress like men.

This Checkers

This currently airing TV commercial (right) for a Checkers steak burger, features a woman dressed in leather from head to toe, ratcheting up her jaw to about three times normal size to take a huge bite.  This look isn’t attractive to civilized men, and it doesn’t do women any favors, unless they aspire to be biker chicks maybe.

And garbage like this is only helping to perpetuate beast mode in America.

A few years ago, I stumbled across this site: boycottamericanwomen.blogspot.com

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You’ve got to be kidding.

It’s about the ever-growing number of men who are dismayed and disgusted at how so many American women have long lost their sense of beauty and femininity, and when I first saw it, the main example was the way women dress these days, particularly, the fact that they had stopped wearing pantyhose.

Today, I had to search to find the site again.  I Googled what I thought was the website’s name: Don’t date American women.  OK, that wasn’t it, but there were at least 10 pages of links to that subject.  I say “at least” because I stopped at page 10.  It was getting too depressing.

Sadly, most women today continue to miss or ignore two great principles:  (1.) The vast majority of men throughout the world always profess that they love and desire women in pantyhose; (2.) Women appear to have no clue about the power they could wield if they wore sheer pantyhose.

(Or, they don’t care, which is even worse.)

It's much more routine for ladies throughout Europe to wear sheer pantyhose with attractive outfits.

Maybe women today think it doesn’t matter what men love and want.  If that’s their attitude, they are selling themselves and sealing their own doom, as more and more men are becoming fed up with the beasts in America and are now getting the conviction to seek foreign beauties who have strong values, enjoy being female, and dress and act like ladies.

Indeed, the ladies in most civilized countries throughout the world embrace the wearing of sheer pantyhose as part of their culture of beauty, class and elegance.  (As pantyhose once were here, where they were invented.)

It’s much more routine for ladies throughout Europe to wear sheer pantyhose with attractive outfits.

almost-obscureAnd, women throughout Asia in particular don’t have to be persuaded (or begged) to wear pantyhose.

They wouldn’t think of doing otherwise, as sheer pantyhose are that ingrained in their culture.  It’s almost funny to me to see that Asian men often don’t even offer a glance when a beautiful woman in pantyhose walks by.

That might be because, to them, it’s no big deal.  They see it all the time, every single day.

To the beasts who have no interest in the values of femininity and beauty, those who don’t think it’s important to wear pantyhose to the office, to a wedding or even to a funeral; who wouldn’t consider wearing even on date night, or for just 20 minutes to please their men on special occasions, know this: Time is running out for you.   And men are keeping score.

For men, time is now

Back in 2012, I wrote a post here: Future of pantyhose in men’s hands?

https://actsensuous.wordpress.com/2012/03/12/future-of-pantyhose-in-mens-hands/

In it, I suggest that men need to do a better job of communicating with the ladies.  They need to express (the right way) their feelings about pantyhose.

I still believe that to some extent it is men who can bring pantyhose back into the mainstream.  It’s already beginning to happen.  We can see pantyhose coming back a little every day.

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Ticking away: It’s high time for pantyhose to be back in the mainstream in America.

The timing is right for all good men to make it known to their wives/gfs they want to see them wearing pantyhose.

I could be wrong here (it happened once … unless I’m mistaken).  So, to those men whose wives/gfs refuse to wear pantyhose to work, out and about, and definitely not for you, there are two things you should consider:

  1. Life is short. Do you really want to waste your youth, energy and passion?  Find the right match for yourself.
  1. Sacrifice and denial can be good (if you’re into the whole zen thing), but can you live with regret?

I understand that you’re responsible, loyal, and don’t want to seem as if you’re too shallow, and that’s very noble of you.  But, at some point, shouldn’t you ask yourself:

“How strong is my marriage (or relationship)?  Isn’t this thing supposed to be a partnership here, like you know, 50-50 or something?   What message is my wife (or gf) sending me if she won’t do such a simple thing as wear pantyhose for me even once in a while?

“And, do I really want to be with a woman anyway, who thinks it’s OK to go ‘bear’-legged at the office, or to a formal event?  Seriously, can I really be with a woman who has such hatred and aversion to something as beautiful, delicate and decidedly feminine as pantyhose?”

Sorry, but to me, it sounds as if too many of your wives/gfs aren’t trying all that hard to be in their marriages/relationships.  That can’t be good.

Still, all these factors aside, if you’re willing to live without your passion, and you can justify to yourself this whole issue, even though you get no fairness in your relationship (not even a little quid pro quo), here are some things you can do for yourself so that you can at least achieve some measure of sick satisfaction:

Retaliation strategies for men

Longtime readers here might remember, I once suggested a few things men whose wives/gfs refuse to wear pantyhose for them should do in retaliation.  I meant it as a joke back then, but now I really think you ought to try these things.

So, here you go …  If your wife or girlfriend won’t wear pantyhose for you, try these things:

  • Don’t wear a necktie — If she loves to see you in a tie, don’t wear one. Tell her ties are uncomfortable, out of style, too grandpa, and irrelevant in today’s more casual dress styles.
  • Don’t wear a belt — When you go out with her, wear dress pants with a tucked-in dress shirt and dress shoes, but skip the belt. Tell her the same as above.
  • Don’t wear socks — See above explanation.
  • If she doesn’t like a beard, grow one.
  • If she does like a beard, shave or don’t grow one.

Well, guys, there you have it.  I’ve showed you how you can solve the biggest dilemma in your life.  Now, the results are up to you.

Ladies, you knew “Knowledge is power.”  Now, you should know Wearing pantyhose is power.

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 Robin