How/Why do I have this Pantyhose fetish?


One of the things I enjoy most about writing this blog is the feedback I get from you in the form of comments you make about my various posts.  I can’t tell you how meaningful that is.

First, I need to feel that someone really cares about what I’m doing here.  Second, it would be no fun writing award-winning-quality pieces and not hear your reactions.  Third, reading your opinions, questions and experiences not only help me to stay motivated, but often gives me ideas for new posts.

Case in point:  Our newest reader/commenter, Richard, wrote yesterday that he first developed his love of pantyhose during his 4th grade through 8th grade school days, as a pretty teacher wore dresses or skirts with high heels and pantyhose all the time.  He added that she even wore hose the few times she wore slacks.  And he said that sometimes she slipped out of her high heels and walked throughout the classroom in just her pantyhosed feet.

Richard, like so many other longtime ActSensuous Blog readers ponders how and why he has a pantyhose fetish.  This phenomenon seems to plague hundreds of thousands of people throughout the world.  They question it and seem almost tormented by it.

I’m certainly no expert, but it seems to me that we start to become who we are at an early stage in life, and one of the biggest influencers on us besides our parents (especially, before cable TV and the Internet) was our elementary and middle school teachers.  And back in the day (before cable TV and the Internet, and “Sex and the City”) teachers, like all professional women wouldn’t dream of not wearing pantyhose.

Women in Japan are much more prolific wearers of pantyhose, than those of most other nationalities, especially, in business environments, including the class room.

It happened that way for me.  I can’t remember what grade I was in, but I’m guessing 4th or so.  There was a pretty young teacher who always wore dresses or skirts with heels and nylons, and under her desk we could see her shoe-play, and she had pretty feet.

I think it was the last day of school, when the teacher was seated at her desk occupied by papers and a couple of kids talking with her at her desk.  One boy lost all control and parked himself in a prone position under her desk and kissed her feet for a few minutes.  He later said he was kissing her shoes, but none of us bought that.

I hadn’t thought about that in a hundred years, but Richard’s comment brought back those memories.  I am still amazed that the teacher was unfazed by the thing (maybe it happened to her all the time), and that none of the other kids seemed too shocked by it either.  Most just laughed, but I am sure there were some among us who couldn’t believe that kid had the nerve to act on his fantasy right there for the whole class to see.

I don’t know about the other kids in that class, but I was probably ruined for life after witnessing that scene.  A couple of years later, 6th grade I think, I began to notice other teachers who always wore dresses, complete with high heels and pantyhose.  Of course, that was just the way it was back then, but it still was pretty exciting to see, especially when some of the teachers seemed to tease a little by frequently running their hands over their nylons to feel the silky fabric on their legs.  I always thought that was sexy.  I wondered how any of the boys learned anything (academically) during those classes.

Back in the day, what a beautiful sight it was to see a teacher in a white skirt, white heels and sheer suntan pantyhose.

That was a great time (notice I’m not revealing the year so as not to age myself).  Looking back, I see things for what they might have been.  We were so young that to us teachers were just adults.  But I’m betting that the teachers were probably fresh out of college and they might have been just starting their professional careers.

And back in the day, dressing professionally and wearing pantyhose might have been new and exciting to them, too.  They probably enjoyed being looked up to by the kids, and wearing the proper business attire likely contributed to their own self-esteem.  That, and the attention they probably got from students, as well as from other teachers and faculty, couldn’t have hurt.

Did those pretty teachers know they were making an impression among many of the students in ways other than academically?  Maybe, but it was a more innocent time, so perhaps some of those teachers thought they were looked upon as goddesses, but I doubt back then, they had any idea they were the cause of many kids developing a pantyhose and/or foot fetish for life.

But, in many cases, that’s exactly what they were doing.

While a teacher, dressed in a skirt and jacket with high heels and sheer pantyhose, is very professional, she might also be the first influence of the concepts of beauty, class, elegance and femininity on young students

I don’t think that’s a bad thing in any sense.  While there is no doubt that today millions of us find pantyhose, and sheer nylons over pretty feet, extremely sexy, I still believe that wearing pantyhose makes a woman stand out from those who don’t.  To me, when a woman chooses to wear pantyhose when she goes to work, out to a nice restaurant, or just out and about, she is professional, classy and beautiful.

How sad it is that probably the majority of today’s teachers don’t wear pantyhose.  Heck, today’s teachers probably don’t even wear dresses or skirts.  They are at the front lines, charged with educating and setting an example for today’s youth.  And the decisions these teachers so recklessly make to dress in jeans or pants outfits only reinforces in our kids’ minds that the school system is a casual experience that carries with it not much in the way of expectations.

It’s so nice to see a young actress, such as Vanessa Hudgens, dressed so elegantly, including wearing sheer pantyhose, during a motion picture premiere event recently in Paris.

How sad it is that seemingly most women today don’t get it.  It seems so many women have been poisoned about the very concept of wearing pantyhose by negative influences created in Hollywood and filtered into mainstream life.

It’s sad that something as beautiful and decidedly feminine as pantyhose has been vilified in the fashion world to the point that otherwise normal women think they hate pantyhose now.

But the true haters notwithstanding, I can’t help but feel there are millions of women out there who have no negative agenda against pantyhose, yet, because they believe that pantyhose are “out” today, they feel obligated to go “bear”-legged because “everyone else is doing it.”  That’s why we see women who should know better, such as celebrities, lawyers, real estate agents, and corporate executives ditching the pantyhose with their dresses, skirts, suits and pumps.  They know it’s the right thing to do to wear those outfits, but they have been brainwashed into thinking that it’s OK to skip the hose.

I really think that secretly many of them don’t feel comfortable dressed up but with bear legs, yet, they don’t have the courage to go against the grain.

I can’t help but believe that some day, they’re going to look back at old pictures of themselves in a beautiful dress, high heels and bear legs, and say to themselves, “What was I thinking?”

Polls reflect your views

Another recent comment from a reader, libertariangman, posed the question: “Do Men PREFER Women in Hosiery over Bare Legs?”

That comment/question inspired a recent post from me, “Future of Pantyhose in Men’s Hands?” (03/12/2012).  Attached to that post is a poll: “Do Men PREFER Women in Hosiery over Bare Legs?”

As of this writing, 161 individuals have weighed in.  Assuming the voters are who they say they are, so far, 154 men have voted Yes (95%); 4 women voted Yes (2%) that they think men prefer women in hosiery; and 3 men (Tabitha’s “special” friends) voted No (2%).  Surprisingly, not a single No vote was cast by a woman.

Wow, 95 percent of voters believe that men prefer women in hosiery over bare legs!  That’s pretty good.  But what does this mean?  Perhaps not much.  Most of those voting were (ostensibly) men.  I think the world pretty much knows that men prefer women in pantyhose.  And 161 votes ain’t gonna make the Guinness Book of World Records.  Still, I believe that if there were 161,000 votes, it would still work out that 95 percent of them favor women in pantyhose.

To me, the troubling reality is that women get that men prefer them in pantyhose, but they still ain’t gonna do it.  Shouldn’t you guys be highly insulted here?  I’ve said it before, and I guess I’m going to keep saying it: Men need to communicate better with women.  Somehow, you’ve got to make it clear that you love them in pantyhose, and you have to make them care.

It might be difficult for men to get any work done at the office with a coworker dressed this way, but employee morale likely would soar.

I’m curious, do you guys ever fantasize that you’re the hiring authority of the most highly-sought-after corporation in your city, where everyone wants to work.  It’s a highly-successful and extremely professional business that enjoys the best reputation in its industry.  You run an ad for a female Vice President of Marketing, and you get a lobby full of qualified applicants.  You do a quick scan and see that 90 percent of the women aren’t wearing pantyhose.

What do you do?  You very professionally and gracefully single out the women wearing pantyhose (without acknowledging the fact) and ask each one to sit on this side of the lobby, while those not wearing, are to sit on that side.  Then, you retreat to your office and ask your assistant (who knows better and always wears) to, one-after-another, escort the women in pantyhose to your office for the interview, completely ignoring the non-wearers, regardless of who was there first, or who might have the stronger resume.

After a while, one of those with bear legs questions your assistant about what’s going on, and she tells those women that they really should go home and come back another time when they are dressed professionally for the executive level position and the nature of the corporation.

The women in that group look at themselves and each other and see that they are all wearing perfectly tailored corporate grey or black business suits and skirts with white blouses and closed toe pumps.  What the heck is this lady talking about?  But one or two of them get it.  A few of them knew better.  They knew they should wear pantyhose, but they chose not to, figuring it just doesn’t matter in today’s world — even at a highly-successful and extremely professional business environment.  Because they know they screwed up, they don’t say anything, but one of the young, hot-shot, overly-aggressive corporate fireballs, speaks up:

“Is he (you) not seeing us because we’re not wearing pantyhose?  That’s ridiculous.  Pantyhose are so outdated.  They’re irrelevant today.  No one wears them anymore.”  And another chimes in: “He can’t do that.  (Yes he/you can.)  That’s illegal. (No it’s not.)  That’s discrimination. (Yeah, so what?  It’s the right of any business to establish a dress code, and if you don’t agree with it, no one’s forcing you to work here.  Bimbo!)  I don’t want to work for a place like this.  I’m out of here.”  (Good.  Go!)

Just a thought.

OK, how about this:  You’re deep in the throes of the zombie apocalypse.  There are only a few survivors.  You are holed up in a makeshift fortress.  Two women on foot have stumbled upon your sanctuary, and are pounding on the door pleading to be let in, as the zombie horde closes in.  Unfortunately, there is room for only one more person.  You see that one is an absolutely gorgeous woman wearing a dress and high heels, but no pantyhose, while the other is semi-attractive, wearing a dress and high heels AND sheer suntan pantyhose.  The gorgeous woman expects to be let in because, well, she’s always gotten preferential treatment her whole life.  The undead are closing in. What do you do?

Simple.  You let the one wearing pantyhose in, and say “Missed it by THAT much” to the beauty with bear legs.

OK, OK, fine.  You let them both in.  But to make a point, you first say “Wow, you’re gorgeous, but I’m gonna have to go with her because she’s got the class, elegance and femininity to wear pantyhose with that pretty outfit, and you don’t.”  Then, you let that girl in, closing the door on the one with bear legs.  The brain munchers are almost on top of her now, and she’s crying out, and you say “Alright, alright, I’ll let you in on one condition:  First time we come across a store that sells pantyhose, you grab a pair and put them on.  Deal?”  She agrees and you let her in.  I mean, c’mon, you’re a reasonable fellow.

You guys get me here?  You’ve got to deliver the message:  “We are sick of the bear legs look.  Enough already.  We want you wearing pantyhose.”

Hey, it’s worth a try.  What ideas do you have?  Let’s get a forum going about the ways men can get the point across to women.

Wake Up and Wear the Pantyhose


Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous

     Ladies, have you noticed that men have been telling us for some time now that they love women in pantyhose.  

     Men are talking about this subject on Internet chat rooms or blog threads.  They are subscribing to the hundreds and hundreds of Web sites out there whose content is dedicated to women in pantyhose.  They are looking at, posting and downloading pictures of women wearing pantyhose everywhere in the world.

      Call me crazy, ladies, but shouldn’t we be listening?  Shouldn’t we care about this a little more?  

     Throughout history, we’ve made every sacrifice out there to make ourselves more beautiful, more glamorous, more appealing. We wear high heels that one day will likely kill our feet forever.  We do spa treatments, obsess over hair and makeup, even undergo surgery if we think it’ll help our cause. 

     Yet, men aren’t asking us to do any of these things.  To men, none of these things make us sexier to them than our wearing pantyhose.  Men aren’t asking on a global scale that we wear shorter skirts or higher heels.  They simply, honestly and with compassion, are asking that we grace ourselves with the softest, silkiest, most decidedly feminine and beautiful thing we could ever wear. 

     Yet, women everywhere shun the wearing of this lovely, classy and glamorous accessory. In light of everything else we do to ourselves in the name of beauty and glamour, how did pantyhose become the enemy here?

     Here’s what I think:  Men ought to start fighting back!   That’s right –men should arbitrarily decide that they no longer are going to wear neckties, for example.  They should show up at the office in suits but no ties.  After all, ties are too hot, too tight, and too uncomfortable to wear.  And really, they’re sooooo yesterday. 

SPECIAL INSERT:  Guys, c’mon.  No comments from you about this?   I’m out here carrying the torch for your favorite fetish, beating up my fellow gal-pals over it, and giving you this brilliant suggestion about how to get back at women for not wearing pantyhose.    Yet, no comments?   I thought we were friends!   Where’s the love?

     Indeed, men ought to just unbutton their shirts to show off their gold chains instead?  We could call this new fashion trend the “bare necks movement.”  Or what if men wore designer suits but no socks?  The “bare ankles look.” 

     Really, men should show a lack of professionalism by dressing this way not only at the office, but on television shows, in movies and on the Red Carpet to collect their awards? 

     And how about on dates?  Men could certainly show their women how much they respect and appreciate them by choosing to look “so cultured” when being seen in public with them.  

     Think about it.  What if men arbitrarily decided that all of a sudden they just don’t need, or can’t be bothered with, dressing in good taste?

     Isn’t that exactly what most women are doing today?  And isn’t it getting a little old?

Credit ‘wear’ Credit is Due II — Going Ga-Ga over the Lady


Known for some outlandish costumes, Lady Gaga is a true pantyhose ambassador on and off the stage.

     After just my second ever blog post (June 2009), Calling out Professional Entertainers, in which I blamed Sarah Jessica Parker (yuk) for creating the “bare legs culture” with her TV series, “Sex and the City,” I’ve been dilligent in criticizing celebrities who buy into this awful trend.  

     Then, in August 2009, I wrote the post, Credit ‘wear’ Credit is Due, giving props to some special celebs who are classy and professional enough to wear pantyhose.  I praised the likes of Olivia Munn (co-host of Attack of the Show) and model/actress Milla Jovovich. 

     Obviously, there are many celebs who deserve such praise.  I particularly appreciate and like very much Nicole Kidman, Sandra Bullock and Linda Fiorentino.  And, even though I don’t see these two pantyhose goddesses much anymore, I’ll always love Kim Basinger and Geena Davis.  Then, there’s Parker Posey, once known as Miss Pantyhose.  These actors have the class and elegance to always wear pantyhose on the set.  I know you have your favorites, too.  (You gotta write in and tell us who.)

     But today’s post is devoted to one Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta, also  known as Lady Gaga.   You know the story:  She has exploded on the dance music scene with four No. 1 hits off her debut album, “The Fame,” has won Best New Artist at the MTV Video Music Awards, has written songs for Britney Spears, the Pussycat Dolls and others, and has become one of Barbara Walters’ “10 Most Fascinating People of 2009.”  And she’s just 23 years old. 

      From what I’ve read and heard in interviews with her, Lady Gaga is more than just a flashy new entertainment phenom.  Already, she is a dance, music, entertainment, fashion icon.  She is wise beyond her years, probably an old soul in a young body.  

     You might not like her music, her dancing, her fashion designs, her lifestyle, or her outspoken ways, but you gotta admit she is a force, and a successful one at that.   I do like her sound, her look, and her style.  What I really like is her sense of values.  First, she is devoted to her mother, father and sister.  Second, she is committed to dressing up all the time, and she is a devoted wearer of pantyhose – not just on stage, but everywhere she’s seen.  

     Consider this quote from Nicole Scherzinger of the Pussycat Dolls during an interview last month with Elle Magazine

     “She (Lady Gaga) is incredible … We’ll be at the airport and she’ll have full fishnets … on even then. I’ll be there with my hair tied up, old sweatpants and top that doesn’t even match, and she’s there in fishnets and not much else.”   

     Said Lady Gaga:  

     “When I meet celebrities and they’re in casual clothes, I’m always like: ‘Whaaat?’ I don’t mean to be judgmental, but it would do them better to be who they really are, all the time. This is really who I am all the time. When I get out of a car and there are 30 fans waiting for me, I know I’m dressed the way I should be. There’s a reason they have that emotional reaction.   I think you should look nice all the time.”

      Lady Gaga has even publicly promised we won’t see her wearing pants.  Her commitment to look good for her fans and to always present herself with class and style whenever she’s in public, to me, is very admirable.  And she’s only 23. 

      I remember when the “bare legs” movement was just gathering steam in the mid-1990s, some show biz industry columnist wrote something to the effect that it would take a young entertainer, “maybe like a Britney Spears,” who would wear pantyhose on a regular basis to set an example for young women, who otherwise might never even consider wearing pantyhose. 

     I never forgot that statement, pretty much figured it would never happen, and now, truly appreciate Lady Gaga’s sense of glamour and style for creating some much-needed press about pantyhose.  

“I’m just trying to change the world one sequin at a time,” she told Elle Magazine last month.

 I don’t know about you, but I’m ga-ga over Lady Gaga.

What drives our Pantyhose Fetish?


Hard to believe so many women don’t know or don’t care about the power they possess in pantyhose.

Sooner or later, I had to write this post.   I had tried several times before, but during my research to find scientific facts, I grew  increasingly discouraged because there are so many conflicting reports, every subject is debatable, and most of the material focuses on the weird or disturbing aspects of behavior.

I wanted to learn where pantyhose rank on a list of the most prevalent fetishes, but I couldn’t find credible material that could be documented.  I did find one thing I expected – that the foot fetish is still No. 1, apparently, the most common.  Suffice it to say that pantyhose are high up there somewhere.

And, thankfully, pantyhose and foot fetishes seem to go hand-in-hand, or make that foot-in-hand, or foot-in-mouth, often appearing simultaneously (“dogs and cats living together …”).

According to a Wikipedia report about a pantyhose fetish, the allure has to do with the following:

  • Pantyhose remove the appearance of blemishes, making  the legs “perfect.”
  • The reflectiveness of the material, coupled with the way they appear less transparent at the edges, often gives legs more contrast and definition, as though lit by dramatic lighting.  This accentuates the curves of the legs, making them less “flat.”
  • They often have a silky texture, which is pleasing to both the wearer and her partner.
  • They do not actually hide what they cover.
  • The slipperiness and smoothness of sheer pantyhose makes women’s shoes slip off more easily.  This vulnerability often is sexually attractive and can result in women engaging in shoe dangling or shoe play, which also is appealing to shoe and foot fetishists.

Obviously, there’s more to a pantyhose fetish than this, but this is a good start.   Ultimately, I decided to just write about what I know.  To me, pantyhose always have been about three things: The way they look, the way they feel to the touch, and the very concept of them in the first place.  Maybe it’s just that they are designed to enhance the beauty of everything they cover.

AE-4 To me, there’s a profound dichotomy about pantyhose, which I find very exciting: Pantyhose possess enormous power, yet, by design, they are extremely delicate and feminine, causing an irresistible vulnerability for the wearer.

Once on, any item of clothing a person wears sort of disappears.  You stop feeling it on your body.  And even though you can touch the pantyhose on yourself, it isn’t the same as feeling them on someone else.

Want your lover to feel what you feel when you caress her legs in pantyhose?  All it takes is to move that delicate nylon fabric over her skin.    The sensation is incredible for both parties.

Now I ask you, readers:  What do you think drives our pantyhose fetish?