Pantyhose wearers catch more eyes


    

Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous

     From time to time, I hear from ladies who say they love wearing pantyhose because of the extra attention they get from men when they do.  

    They say they love it when they catch men staring at their pantyhose-adorned legs out in public. 

     Others tell me that their boyfriends or husbands are so grateful whenever they wear pantyhose, that they wear them often to please their men.

   More than anyone else, I hear from ladies who wear pantyhose at the office, sometimes because it’s required, or at least, expected. 

     In offices where the wearing of pantyhose is not required or particularly encouraged, it’s the ladies who are highly professional and classy who wear pantyhose of their own volition.  Those are my heroes. 

     These ladies tell me that when they wear pantyhose, they get a great deal more attention from their male co-workers.  But they say that this often causes a sense of uneasiness or even resentment among their fellow female employees.

Office girls in Korea would never not wear pantyhose to work.

     They tell me that female co-workers will approach them and say something to the effect of “You know, you don’t have to wear pantyhose.  You can go bare-legged.”  Or, “How can you stand to wear pantyhose every day?” Or (and I love this one), “Pantyhose are so  ‘out’ these days.” 

     Well, you know me – I think it’s downright pathetic when women blindly jump on the bandwagon in the name of what is thought to be “in or out of fashion,” especially if it gives them an excuse to be less feminine and not as desirable.  And I think it’s just plain wrong when women use that same excuse to go against time-honored business acumen, and then try to encourage others to do so, as well.    

     Anyway, it got me thinking:  How many of you have been approached by your co-workers about your wearing pantyhose at the office?   Or how many of you have noticed that you get more attention from co-workers, those in your circle, or people on the street when you wear pantyhose?

     Are you seen as a threat to your fellow females who don’t wear pantyhose and don’t want you to wear them either?   (And is that to keep you from garnering the attention of men, or to help them somehow  justify their own choice to not wear pantyhose?) 

     I’ll bet you have some stories to share.  Please do.

Office girls in China gather for a meeting. Wonder if the businessmen at this office find it difficult to concentrate?

Wake Up and Wear the Pantyhose


Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous

     Ladies, have you noticed that men have been telling us for some time now that they love women in pantyhose.  

     Men are talking about this subject on Internet chat rooms or blog threads.  They are subscribing to the hundreds and hundreds of Web sites out there whose content is dedicated to women in pantyhose.  They are looking at, posting and downloading pictures of women wearing pantyhose everywhere in the world.

      Call me crazy, ladies, but shouldn’t we be listening?  Shouldn’t we care about this a little more?  

     Throughout history, we’ve made every sacrifice out there to make ourselves more beautiful, more glamorous, more appealing. We wear high heels that one day will likely kill our feet forever.  We do spa treatments, obsess over hair and makeup, even undergo surgery if we think it’ll help our cause. 

     Yet, men aren’t asking us to do any of these things.  To men, none of these things make us sexier to them than our wearing pantyhose.  Men aren’t asking on a global scale that we wear shorter skirts or higher heels.  They simply, honestly and with compassion, are asking that we grace ourselves with the softest, silkiest, most decidedly feminine and beautiful thing we could ever wear. 

     Yet, women everywhere shun the wearing of this lovely, classy and glamorous accessory. In light of everything else we do to ourselves in the name of beauty and glamour, how did pantyhose become the enemy here?

     Here’s what I think:  Men ought to start fighting back!   That’s right –men should arbitrarily decide that they no longer are going to wear neckties, for example.  They should show up at the office in suits but no ties.  After all, ties are too hot, too tight, and too uncomfortable to wear.  And really, they’re sooooo yesterday. 

SPECIAL INSERT:  Guys, c’mon.  No comments from you about this?   I’m out here carrying the torch for your favorite fetish, beating up my fellow gal-pals over it, and giving you this brilliant suggestion about how to get back at women for not wearing pantyhose.    Yet, no comments?   I thought we were friends!   Where’s the love?

     Indeed, men ought to just unbutton their shirts to show off their gold chains instead?  We could call this new fashion trend the “bare necks movement.”  Or what if men wore designer suits but no socks?  The “bare ankles look.” 

     Really, men should show a lack of professionalism by dressing this way not only at the office, but on television shows, in movies and on the Red Carpet to collect their awards? 

     And how about on dates?  Men could certainly show their women how much they respect and appreciate them by choosing to look “so cultured” when being seen in public with them.  

     Think about it.  What if men arbitrarily decided that all of a sudden they just don’t need, or can’t be bothered with, dressing in good taste?

     Isn’t that exactly what most women are doing today?  And isn’t it getting a little old?

Carrie Ann, how could you?


Robin Maryland, president, ActSensuous

     “The judges have (get) their scores!

Carrie Ann Inaba  . . . . .  4!”

     I don’t watch the Tonight Show.  I like Jay Leno OK, but I’m more of a Late Show with David Letterman fan.  But for the first time ever, I watched the Tonight Show last night.  

     Why?  Because I wanted to see if Carrie Ann Inaba would make me proud, or disappoint me.  I fully expected to be disappointed, and I wasn’t disappointed, because she did disappoint me, as I expected. 

     See, I figured she’d wear some kind of short black dress during her appearance along with fellow judge Bruno Tonioli from the hit TV series Dancing with the Stars.  A small part of me had held out hope that Carrie Ann would wear pantyhose, but I knew I was kidding myself.  

     Carrie Ann gets to hide behind long gowns and a desk as a judge on DWTS, so I suppose she’s pretty much off the hook with whether to wear pantyhose on the show.  But I’ve seen a few photos of her during public appearances, and never have I seen her wearing pantyhose.  So, as I feared, she is one of those brainwashed celebs who’ve jumped on the bare legs bandwagon. 

     Now, I hate to be judgmental.  I mean she is a beautiful woman and she has tons of charm and personality.  But her legs looked perfectly AWFUL last night. 

     And those shoes!   I can never understand how so many women don’t seem to realize that big, cloddy shoes make their legs look so dumpy.  Sheer pantyhose and pumps would have been so much more attractive, not to mention appropriate.

      There are so many reasons I am bothered by Carrie Ann’s choosing to do the bare legs things:  

  • Lack of judgment, misplaced values, missed opportunity, no self awareness, no sense of pride in how she looks, or maybe she just doesn’t care
  • She could have/should have been an ambassador for the No. 1 rated TV show she represents had she bothered to dress for the occasion.  (She represents ballroom, which is a classy thing, yet, she must not think it deserves to be held in such a lofty place)
  • Her willingness to follow the pack when she must have had better sense. (Didn’t her mother tell her she should wear pantyhose for the occasion?)
  • She’s Asian, so I’d hoped she would know better

      Those of you who’ve read my blogs know that I hold Asian women in the highest esteem.  For one thing, Asian women appear to be more committed to femininity and have a higher sense of values than most of their Western counterparts.  And Asian women are far more prolific wearers of pantyhose – in the office, on screen and in everyday life.  Especially, Japanese women. 

      But, of course, I am speaking of “real” Asian women.  Carrie Ann Inaba, of Chinese, Japanese and Irish descent, is too Westernized.  She’s similar in that respect to Lucy Liu, whom I adore.  And it pains me to have to say this but Lucy Liu, a Chinese-American woman who was born and grew up in New York, almost never wears pantyhose during the many charity events, awards ceremonies and other high profile venues she attends.  At least, Lucy Liu wears pantyhose when it counts the most – her TV and movies appearances.

      I think it’s sad that Carrie Ann doesn’t seem to care about her image.  I really want to like Carrie Ann, but I’ve lost some respect for her. 

      Am I being too harsh?  I welcome your comments.  Meanwhile, check out the photo gallery from the Tonight Show:

Why the ‘Visitors’ are really here


     Twice before, I’ve written about Anna, the beautiful and charismatic leader of the Visitors from another planet. 

Morena Baccarin as Anna, the boss lady lizard, on ABC's "V" TV series is stunning in pantyhose during each episode.

     She claims the “V”s “Come in peace.  Always.”   Yeah … not sure anyone’s really buying that, Anna.    

     While Anna’s been selling the Visitors’ unselfish desire to share with us lowly humans their vastly superior medical and environmental technology, clearly, there’s something else going on here. 

     Besides, if the Visitors are so nice, why is there so much fighting going on lately between them and the members of the 5th Column, the resistence group? 

     To discern what’s really going on here, it might be helpful to understand the players – who are the good guys and who are the bad guys?    Well, that’s easy – Anna and the “V”s are the bad guys and the members of the 5th Column are the good guys, right?   Wrong! 

     You see, ABC is clever.  They’re making it look like Anna and the “V”s are the bad guys, but trust me, that just isn’t the case.  Anna is awesome!   First of all, any alien with legs like Anna’s could never be the bad guy.  Secondly, she shows up each and every week decked out in another gorgeous dress or designer suit, complete with high heels, and wearing an absolutely delicious-looking pair of sheer pantyhose.  Clearly, she and the Visitors are the good guys here. 

     So, what’s the real reason the Visitors are here?   Simple:  Anna secretly is a good alien, sent here to heal the hurt and damage caused by an earlier visitor who really was an evil alien – one Carrie Bradshaw.    You remember her – that really terrible character who singlehandedly “ran” pantyhose out of Hollywood, and subsequently, the rest of the planet, with that awful TV series of the mid-1990s, Sex and the City.  

     Anyone who’s ever seen Sarah Jessica Parker – an evil alien visitor to Earth in real life – and that stupid TV series of hers, knows who the real bad guys in the “V” show are.

     Let’s review: Carrie/Sarah Jessica Parker = bad, evil, ugly alien; Anna = good, awesome, beautiful alien.

      Yes, I think it’s clear that Anna and the Visitors are here only to save Earth from itself.   She wants to help Earth women recapture their sense of beauty, femininity, class and grace, but to do this, she and her innocent Visitors have to win us over, while battling members of the resistance group who are intent on ruining the planet by encouraging women to wear dresses, suits, even formal gowns, with gorgeous high heels and, gasp, BARE LEGS. 

     I say let Anna and the Visitors take over the world.  I’d follow her anywhere.  We less-than-exotic Earthlings can really learn from the example she’s setting.   We should thank Anna for being the supreme example of what women should be — or at least how we should look. 

     Please do take over the world, Anna, and make us a more beautiful, glamorous people.

Pantyhose – To Wear or Not To Wear?


Robin Maryland, president of ActSensuous

     Ladies … hate pantyhose?  Refuse to wear them?  Here’s your chance to state for the record why.  Please take our poll at the bottom of this post.

     Last year, I wrote the post Why Bears don’t wear Pantyhose,  in which I rebuked the few lame excuses women typically give for not wearing pantyhose today.   

     The headline was my way of poking fun at myself for mistakenly using the wrong word in that post’s attached poll: Today’s Bear Legs Culture, as obviously, I meant “bare.”  (By the way, the No. 1 answer by far was “Can’t die a horrible death soon enough,” but then, I am sure it was mostly men who voted.)  

     Still, I can’t fathom why so many women are against pantyhose.  I suspect the biggest reason is just that this “bare legs” trend created in Hollywood gives them an excuse not to wear pantyhose.  They’re jumping on the bandwagon.  Oh, I’m sure there are those who are much more militant about it, but I think if pantyhose weren’t considered “not in vogue” today, women would be wearing, as they always have.  

     I was going to write a sequel to Why Bears don’t wear Pantyhose, but I decided that rather than guessing their reasons, I want to hear what they really are from real, live women today. ( Then, armed with their legitimate reasons, I’ll write Why Bears don’t wear Pantyhose II, and completely tear apart their ridiculous excuses.)  

     So here it is – The ultimate pantyhose poll.  It gives any woman who wants to participate, the opportunity to vote on why she would choose to wear or to not wear pantyhose.  I’ve offered the possible reasons, but there’s also a place to write in other answers, and I would encourage women to do that if my choices don’t reflect their true and accurate reasons.  

     Please Note: For this to work, it must be handled with the utmost integrity, so puh-leeeeeease . . .  ladies only.  Guys, please do not cast a vote.  (Feel free to comment on this post, just please don’t vote on the poll.)  The idea here is to gather real usable data.  Hard evidence.  I want to know the real reasons why women shun the wearing of pantyhose today.   

     Don’t you?

Dancing with the Slobs a huge bust


     UPDATE:  Tuesday March 30, 2010 –

     You know that (annoying) TV commercial in which everyday people take credit for the new Microsoft Windows 7: “It was my idea.” ?

     Well obviously, DWTS listened to me, or read my blog, because more of the pro dancers and celebrity dancers wore pantyhose during Monday’s second episode and tonight’s Results Show of the 2010 season.  

     But not my favorite from the first show last Monday night, Nicole Scherzinger.  Bimbo.  I knew it was too good to be true!

Monday March 22, 2010 –    

Celeb dancer Nicole Scherzinger practices with pro partner Derek Hough, but unfortunately, was almost never seen in pantyhose during her actual performances.

I had stopped watching Dancing with the Stars many seasons and many reasons ago.  But you had to know I’d at least watch Monday night’s (March 22, 2010) opening episode to see if, by some miracle, any of the female celebrity and pro dancers wore pantyhose.   Would any of them show any class, or like during the Oscars, would most of them  wear fabulous costumes, jewelry and heels but go bare-legged? 

     Helloooo … this is ballroom, people!  Where’s the grace and elegance?  

     Two places, actually:

  • First, as usual, the women in the audience looked better than the celebs and pros, as almost everyone of them wore pantyhose.  After all, these ordinary people have the class and good sense to realize they’ll be seen on national TV.  When the audience members dress better than the stars, the costumer associated with the show should be ashamed. 
  • Second, toward the end of the show, there was a wonderful commercial for L’eggs pantyhose, featuring an absolutely gorgeous Asian girl wearing a variety of pretty outfits and pantyhose.  Wow!  A pantyhose commercial.  Haven’t seen one of those since, what, the 1970s?  

      In all fairness, celebs Niecy Nash and Nicole Scherzinger (photo above), and pro dancers Chelsie Hightower and Anna Trebunskaya did wear pantyhose. 

    But celebs Shannen Doherty, Erin Andrews, Kate Gosselin and Pamela Anderson, and pro dancers Cheryl Burke, Ashly Costa (too bad because she’s very cute and sweet), and Edyta Sliwinska (whom I’ve NEVER seen in pantyhose ever) went with the bare legs look. 

     Here’s what I don’t get:  Dancing with the Stars does an elaborate job and must spend an enormous amount of money on the set.   On the surface, the overall look and atmosphere is one of class, elegance and glamour.  The orchestra is first rate.  The concept is well conceived.  So what is with the costumer for this show?   Hellooooo.  This is ballroom! 

     You don’t see professional or even amateur figure skaters going bare-legged just because pantyhose “aren’t in fashion” right now.  And cheerleaders of professional sports teams (and some college teams) wear pantyhose (or at least tights).    

     And who cast these celebs, anyway?   It seems that the show thinks it has to feature women with huge busts (hence my title for this post) to pull in viewers.  Pamela Anderson?   “The most downloaded celebrity of all time?”  Huh?  And all the male cast members and celebs just went ga-ga over this?  Ugh, I must belong on a completely different planet. 

Insert (June 2010): OK, I must admit, I had never really given Pamela Anderson a chance.  She actually grew on me during the course of the show, which I did monitor (only to see who wore and who didn’t).  I have to give Pamela credit.  She isn’t the bimbo I’d expected.  She was funny, she can dance, she maintained a professional attitude and she brought character to each of her performances.  AND she often wore pantyhose.  So, I am now admitting that I prejudged her, and for that, I am sorry.   

      Am I wrong here?   Too hard on this show?   Is it OK for celebs and pro dancers of the ballroom to allow their wardrobe to drop to the depths of what we can expect to see on late night talk shows and award shows?  Does anyone care?

Please let me know your thoughts:  Dancing with the Stars — or Dancing with the Slobs?

Calling out Professional Entertainers


Elegant and classy
Elegant and classy

Ever watch Deal or No Deal?  How about Dancing with the Stars?  I don’t know about you, but it drives me crazy when professional entertainers from those shows in particular, many other shows and all Oscars-type award shows, where celebrities are photographed on the “red carpet,” wear hundred thousand dollar gowns, gorgeous high heels, million dollar jewely — and bare legs.

To me, the issue is one of good taste, good sense and glamour.  In the photo to the left, the beautiful and classy Malaysian-American actress Michelle Yeoh wears an elegant gown, heels and sheer pantyhose during a recent awards show. 

Don’t those models on Deal or No Deal see themselves on TV later and realize they look just plain silly?

It’s my feeling that bare legs with those gorgeous dresses and heels turns what should be, and otherwise would be, a glamorous look into a casual look.  Hey I know, let’s dress Howie in a fabulous suit, but no socks!

And on Dancing with the Stars, we are talking ballroom here, people.  This aint no disco.  Hello … !   Yes, every once in a while, one or two of the pro dancers and celebrity dancers wear pantyhose, but it’s rare.

Hey, whoever outfits these dancers (pro and celebrity), you should be ashamed when members of the audience show up dressed better than your female host and the performers.  Everytime the camera pans the audience, the females who are wearing dresses or skirts always are wearing hose.  They know they might be seen on national TV and they want to look their best.  Who are the classy ones here?

What’s next, female figure skaters with bare legs?

What are your thoughts about all this?